The Purpose of Life

Purpose (def): the reason for which something is done or created or for which something exists. Purpose creates meaning, offers a sense of direction and helps guide our paths, behavior, and goals. Purpose according to Google: Live and let live. (I think it’s hilarious that one can ask google what the purpose of life is,Continue reading “The Purpose of Life”

A New Way

My earliest desperate search for a life purpose or meaning, for which I could do great things, repeatedly and resoundingly hit a brick wall. The graffiti on that wall said, “breathe.” It took me a few years to understand that I actually had received my answer. All I needed to do was breathe. No bigContinue reading “A New Way”

It Took 29 Years to Get Here

On 2/29/92 at 2:29, I married my husband. I was 27 and he was 21, and we’d been dating for three years; I’ll let you do the math. We got married in Las Vegas because my family was in Washington State and his is all in California. We found a beautiful little chapel months aheadContinue reading “It Took 29 Years to Get Here”

What’s Love Got to do with It?

Love Connection continued…. Not long after filming a short video for the Love Connection TV show, I received a call from them. They’d shown three clips to a guy and he’d chosen me for a date. He phoned me to set up our outing. I don’t remember his name, which tells you how this workedContinue reading “What’s Love Got to do with It?”

The Very Definition of Passive-Aggression

Preface:You may want to read the last post, “Until We Meet Again,” before this one. It was a beautiful Saturday in Montana, and we enjoyed a great brunch at the cabin. Drew was very irritated because I’d said breakfast would be at 10. Truth be told, Carol and Catherine were concerned he just might controlContinue reading “The Very Definition of Passive-Aggression”

The Gift that Keeps on Giving

About ten years ago, my uncle was trying to clear out the fruits of his late wife’s bargain hunting skills. She was like the Energizer bunny, always on the move and, as she buzzed around, she was asking questions and conversing all the while. I’m sure she saved a lot of money buying decor, smallContinue reading “The Gift that Keeps on Giving”

Am I the Only One Who…

is it just me, or do others apologize to their pets if they bump into them or are late to get their dinner served? Am I the only one of my generation, end of the boomers, who always just assumed, as we were growing up, the government was regularly listening to phone calls? Are otherContinue reading “Am I the Only One Who…”

Is God Playing Chess?

When someone says, “Everything happens for a reason,” I bristle. It’s involuntary and visceral. I used to say it myself. We employ this phrase as though it is a comfort. We trot it out because we don’t know what else to say, which makes us uncomfortable. It fills the painful, quiet space that one experiencesContinue reading “Is God Playing Chess?”

That Time My Live-in Boyfriend Fell in Love with Someone Else

Previously my annoying roommate and now my live-in boyfriend, let’s call him Tom, we were from the same hometown, had graduated from the same university; but hadn’t met until we found ourselves teaching in the Southern California desert, although at different districts. He was teaching in town, where we lived, and I taught about 20Continue reading “That Time My Live-in Boyfriend Fell in Love with Someone Else”

And We’re Gonna Get Married

(May want to read “Going to the Chapel” first, but not necessary.) Following dinner with family at an Italian restaurant just off the strip in Las Vegas, four friends and I went out into the night to celebrate my last night as a single woman. My fiancee headed out with our male friends to tearContinue reading “And We’re Gonna Get Married”

Going to the Chapel

Yes, it was a Vegas wedding, but a carefully planned one. We had about 50 people coming from both Southern California and my hometown. Nine months before, we’d started at one end of the Strip and stopped at every wedding venue, and I mean every. Some were in hotels, but we found those stiff, overpricedContinue reading “Going to the Chapel”